In Memory of Daddy

Captain Thomas Joseph Shanley
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Captain Thomas Joseph Shanley
May 21
I was talking to one of my on-line Twitter friends @onefinebreeder about twin delivery. I was telling her about how things used to be.. how vertex-nonvertex twin gestation’s were always delivered vaginally ….. and she commented on how it was sad that some of the old OB skills have been totally lost to surgery… So Very True!
I got to thinking about the first combination Twin delivery I had witnessed back in the very early 80’s. This was actually one of our own (hospital employee) nurses . She was a multip…. around 37-38 weeks and healthy…no complications during pregnancy. Twin A delivered spontaneously, vaginally with a generous episiotomy as they often performed at that time… The baby , a girl, was about 6 pounds, vigorous and had no problems. We were all marveling at the first baby, checked fetal hearts on the second twin and started waiting for him to get in position. Still before consistent ultrasound, we were not worried. However, we had a newer doctor who was attending this birth. He began to get concerned after 5- 10 min when contractions slowed and he was worried that if this baby was breech, he would have difficulty with the “after-coming” head. Up to this point, all I had learned was this can be a real concern if the smaller feet or buttocks present through a cervix which is not fully dilated. Much research was done later on but at the time, I did not know about it. He began to ask us to call the OR for a C/S. This was unheard of in my limited experience at the time…. my 70’s world. I thought.. how can they do a C/S now when one baby was already born??? I tried to be an advocate… (my early days… )”We have Piper forceps…” I said meekly… “Have you tried to grab a large part and help bring the baby down… ?” This was my limited knowledge… all I knew to suggest. I kept wishing one of the other doctors was on duty that day.. or maybe we could call them???
In front of the mother, he said to me “I’m not going to have a bad outcome here!” By now it was 20 minutes or so. There was no cord prolapse, no drop in fetal hearts, no evidence of immediate trouble… the baby was seeming to work itself into breech position…. To the mother he said “Your baby is in serious danger and the best thing to save him is to take you for a Cesarean now!” “I’ll sew your episiotomy together while we are in the OR.”
I was in shock. She signed, scared to death of course. So we prepped her for the OR. She went up for a C/S of her second twin and repair of her generous episiotomy. Her second baby was delivered frank breech… a beautiful boy about the same size and was also vigorous and healthy. I remember I felt as though she was almost assaulted. I remember feeling that this was a true rare event if it every happened before. There was no immediate access to information like today.
Luckily mom and babies did fairly well in the postpartum period even though healing from both the episiotomy and the C/S was difficult for her.

" Psst-- How can I get out if I'm not head 1st ??"
I wanted to see how much research I could find on this topic. I had gone to the green journal (OB & GYN) website but then it locked me out. (You can only look at abstracts anyway unless you want to purchase the article. You are on your own for that.) I had some luck with the abstracts at PubMed so I have put a few here.
I decided to take a look across time…….
This first one is from 1981. . Quoted abstract from the PubMed site:
Cesarean Section for Delivery of the Second Twin
Evrard,JohnR.; Gold, Edwin M.Obstetrics & Gynecology. 57(5):581-583, May 1981.Four cases of combined vaginal-abdominal delivery of twins are presented, and an additional 5 cases from the recent literature are discussed. Malposition, malpresentation, and contracted cervix were the main indications for cesarean section for the birth of twin B. In the 9 cases presented, there were 2 perinatal deaths.
Interesting that this research was done during the same time frame as my experience above. I’d like to know more about those poor outcomes 😦
The next interesting article I found was researched over a 10 yr period, somewhat close to here in a larger facility, published 1997. THIS study examines the delivery of the second twin by utilizing external version vs breech extraction . 😉 The results are showing in favor of breech delivery vs version (those meeting exclusionary criteria ).. Versions were associated with higher a incidence of Cesarean and fetal distress. Neonatal outcomes no different and are stated below:
Method of delivery of the nonvertex second twin: a community hospital experience.
Smith SJ, Zebrowitz J, Latta RA. J Matern Fetal Med. 1997 May-Jun;6(3):146-50
Abington Memorial Hospital, Pennsylvania, USA.
The purpose of this study is to examine the incidence of cesarean section and fetal distress complicating the delivery of the second twin in vertex-nonvertex twin gestations in which the second twin underwent either breech extraction or external version. The intrapartum courses of 510 twin gestations delivered at a community hospital over a 10-year period were retrospectively analyzed. All vertex-nonvertex twin gestations were identified in which the second twin underwent attempted breech extraction or external version. Exclusion criteria included birthweight < or = 1,500 g, fetal anomaly, intrauterine demise, and monoamniotic twins. Of the 76 twin sets that met inclusion criteria, 33 underwent external version and 43 underwent primary breech extraction. The two groups had similar demographic characteristics. External version compared to breech extraction was associated with a significantly greater incidence of cesarean section (8/33 vs. 1/43, P = .008) and fetal distress (8/33 vs. 1/43, P = .008). There was no difference between groups in neonatal outcome for the second twin as measured by length of stay, 5-minute Apgar < 7, intensive care unit admissions, hyaline membrane disease, intraventricular hemorrhage, and traumatic birth injury. In conclusion, the increased incidence of cesarean section and fetal distress in patients undergoing attempted external version suggests that breech extraction may be the preferable route of delivery for the nonvertex second twin weighing more than 1,500 g
The next study was published a little later in 2001 and covered a 20 year span of time… during the 80’s and 90’s at a larger center in Nova Scotia, Canada. They noted an increase in their combination vaginal/cesarean twin births and documented some statistical data, looked at reasons for an operative second twin birth. I wish to read this study further some day to see if there is mention pertaining to mother/baby outcomes other than statistics outlined (even though that wasn’t their objective) in this abstract:
Combined Vaginal-Cesarean Delivery of Twin Pregnancies
Persad, Vidia L.; Baskett, Thomas F.; O’Connell, Colleen M.; Scott, Heather M.
Obstetrics & Gynecology . 98(6):1032-1037, December 2001.
Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada.
OBJECTIVE: To estimate the incidence and factors associated with combined vaginal-cesarean delivery in twin pregnancies. METHODS: We studied all twin births weighing 500 g or more during a 20-year period (1980-1999) at a tertiary care center. Major anomalies, monoamniotic and conjoined twins, and antepartum fetal deaths were excluded.
RESULTS: During this 20-year period, 105,987 women delivered, of whom 1565 (1.5%) had twins. Of these, 1151 twin sets fulfilled the study criteria. The mode of delivery was vaginal in 653 (56.8%), cesarean in 448 (38.9%), and vaginal-cesarean in 50 (4.3%). During the 20 years there was a statistically significant increase in combined vaginal-cesarean and elective cesarean deliveries, with a decrease in vaginal deliveries. Parity, gestational age, and birth weight discordance (>25%) were not associated with combined delivery. Compared with vaginal delivery, the nonvertex second twin was associated with a twofold higher risk of cesarean delivery (relative risk [RR] 2.3; 95% confidence interval [CI] 1.3, 3.8; P =.002); and an interdelivery interval of over 60 minutes with an eightfold higher risk (RR 8.2; CI 4.6,14.6; P <.001). Vaginal-cesarean delivery had a 22-fold higher use of general anesthesia compared with vaginal delivery (RR 21.8; CI 5.4, 88.5; P <.001). CONCLUSION: There has been a significant increase in combined vaginal-cesarean and elective cesarean deliveries among twin gestations, with a decrease in vaginal births. Vaginal-cesarean delivery is associated with nonvertex second twin and a prolonged interdelivery interval.
Now we come to 2008! There is a study here from Texas. This study looked a twins born by C/S after labor and twins who had cesarean birth of the second twin. they campared outcomes to see if the twin of a combined delivery had more problems. The most important pieces of information I gather from this abstract of results…. (again, having NOT read the entire study):
“Combined twin delivery may be associated with endometritis and neonatal sepsis when compared with a twin delivery where both are delivered by cesarean in twin pregnancies experiencing labor. More serious neonatal sequelae, including hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy and death, were not affected by the route of delivery of the second twin.” Hmmm
Cesarean Delivery for the Second Twin
Alexander, James M.; Leveno, Kenneth J.; ….et al:for the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) Maternal-Fetal Medicine Units Network (MFMU) Obstetrics & Gynecology . 112(4):748-752, October 2008.
Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center at Dallas, 5323 Harry Hines Boulevard, Dallas, TX 75235-9032, USA. james.alexander@utsouthwestern.edu
OBJECTIVE: To examine maternal and infant outcomes after a vaginal delivery of twin A and a cesarean delivery of twin B, and to identify whether the second twin experienced increased short-term morbidity as part of a combined route of delivery. METHODS: Between January 1, 1999, and December 31, 2000, a prospective cohort study of all cesarean deliveries was conducted at 13 university centers. This secondary analysis was limited to women with twin gestations who experienced labor and underwent cesarean delivery. We compared outcomes of the second twin in women who had vaginal delivery of the first twin and a cesarean delivery of the second twin to those who had cesarean delivery of both twins. RESULTS: One thousand twenty-eight twin pregnancies experienced labor and underwent cesarean delivery; 179 (17%) had a combined vaginal/cesarean delivery. Gestational age at delivery was 34.6 weeks in both groups (P=.97). The rupture of membranes to delivery interval was longer in the combined group (3.2 compared with 2.3 hours, P<.001). Endometritis and culture-proven sepsis in the second twin were more common in the combined group, respectively (n=24, odds ratio 1.6, 95% confidence interval, 1.0-2.7; n=15, odds ratio 1.8, 95% confidence interval, 1.0-3.4). These differences were not significant after logistic regression analysis. There were no statistically significant differences in an arterial cord pH of less than 7.0, Apgar score less than or equal to 3 at 5 minutes, seizures, grade III or IV intraventricular hemorrhage, hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy, or neonatal death. CONCLUSION: Combined twin delivery may be associated with endometritis and neonatal sepsis when compared with a twin delivery where both are delivered by cesarean in twin pregnancies experiencing labor. More serious neonatal sequelae, including hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy and death, were not affected by the route of delivery of the second twin.
I gather from these studies that a combined delivery route leads to more problems.. however…there are probably more problems than breech presentation alone to lead the provider to make that choice. I believe that many newer providers of obstetrics in a hospital setting are more apt to do a scheduled C/S for any vertex-nonvertex twins they encounter. That is what is done in my facility today. The same for all breech presentation singleton gestation.
Where is that old-fashioned nurse when you need her?? How ’bout the old fashoined doc??? 😉
I am very interested in anyone’s story or experience either in healthcare or your personal birth. Please let me know if you know anything about this!
Thanks for reading!
May 20
Watch the video Wednesday
Just read an awesome Post about Delayed Cord Clamping by a fellow Labor and Delivery Nurse who has an excellent blog you should all read. I have a link to it on the right hand side… “nursingbirth”.
She did tremendous research and has supplied fabulous information.
Here’s a shout out to you nursingbirth!!
Watch this video..
May 19
Barriers~
Even the word itself is foreboding.
Breastfeeding advocacy, lactivism, promotion are important to combat what is really a public health problem and should be a public health priority. ~Breastfeeding should simply be the norm.
“Today’s medical community recognizes what their
“Today’s medical community recognizes what their predecessors knew a century ago—that the American propensity to shun human milk is a public health problem and should be exposed as such.”American Journal of Public Health | December 2003, Vol 93, No. 12
It should be SIMPLE~
It is one thing to talk or write a lot about breastfeeding advocacy and promotion… but WHAT does that really do to break down the hospital barriers. Even with some good ideas or some well-written plans & protocols(ie. as recommended by The Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine)…. I’m here to tell you, all that does very little to actually change an individual health-care professional’s actions. There is a critical void in the practice of appropriate breastfeeding management strategies and breastfeeding support from the health-care arena.
Working with barriers day-in and day-out can really open your eyes to what some of us, as lactation professionals or advocates, are dealing with on a daily basis. Many of us are ill-equipped to attempt to enforce evidence-based management guidelines. There must be better support from the management of each facility, organization or Health-System. It needs to start at the top…. to say we now have an evidence-based breastfeeding policy is NOT enough. I believe it starts with each individual being responsible and accountable for their own practice.
Action Taken~
I have written about how Breastfeeding was taught to me in nursing school and what our scary hospital policy looked like when I got started in this profession.
I have written an article published in a local parent magazine to coincide with 2007 World Breastfeeding Week supporting practices to keep breastfeeding SOFT and SIMPLE.
I have been working on so many different ways to try to keep it SIMPLE… trying to reduce barriers. I have written countless competencies at work while trying to gently re-educate my co-workers. I have developed several PowerPoint presentations, poster in-services, poster displays etc.. to try to help my fellow staff members AND physicians fully UNDERSTAND the superiority & importance of breastfeeding and the use of correct evidence-based management advice, assistance or feeding plans. I have learned to be gentle and patient in the process….one step at a time.
I want to keep it simple for the mother…I’ve tried to work on a simple bottom-line approach to eliminate any maternal barriers of feeling overwhelmed or confused with too much or conflicting information.
I don’t want mothers to think they have to “study” to pass the breastfeeding test….to “perform” correctly!
I encounter a variety of moms from vastly different backgrounds. There are huge differences in their own individual breastfeeding expectations and goals. We have a large breastfeeding/bottle feeding combination population at my facility. I’ve struggled to balance quality promotion and proper education to both mother’s AND the staff. I continue to to educate with acceptance of all individual mom’s actions. I have written about my approach and maternal guilt.
I wrote:
Never overestimate a mother’s desire to breastfeed her infant.
Never underestimate a mother’s desire to breastfeed her infant.
Listen to the mother; help her define her true desires and goals.
Support the mother, support the mother, and support the mother.
This is what I have learned and how some of my approaches and strategies have evolved over the last 20 years so that moms and staff alike will listen. I have written these same things at work…. They are hearing me now. I have to say that at least they are listening and some are talking the talk. How do I get them to walk the walk? Only a select few truly care to try. The following is some of what we still deal with…
Continued Problems …. Persistent Barriers ~
I have been patient, really patient. I have seen progress…real progress. I feel so frustrated to be still dealing with some of these barriers. It is overwhelming and exhausting. I haven’t been trying to do everything alone. I have “duplicated” myself several times. Some of those individuals are still here, others move on to other jobs, others become apathetic over time. Then we get new people who look at things differently with comments like… “This is what we did at __blank___ hospital..”
What do you suggest could help with the real change……the implementation process??
How do I get them to walk the walk???
Please comment and make a suggestion… Do you have a good one I haven’t tried?
May 15
Part II
Apparently Sarah had been having a lot of headaches and dizzy spells. She is 19 yrs old now and had graduated high school, was attending the local college and had moved out of Karen’s home to live with her boyfriend, Justin. Sarah possessed a beautiful free spirit and Justin (who was the father of the baby she’d given up for adoption) was her true soul mate. They were still together. It was easy to see how Sarah and Justin were truly in love.
Sarah went down to a large hospital in Philadelphia and had many diagnostic tests all confirming brain cancer. Her tumor was too big for surgery right away but the doctors were optimistic that after radiation and some chemotherapy, they could do surgery and remove the tumor. So far the other systems tests looked good. Sarah was a fighter and vowed to beat this thing!
During the chemo and radiation, she lost her hair. Justin also shaved his head! This wasn’t so popular back in 84-85. She was surrounded by great support! By the end of 1985, her tumor had shrunk she was able to have the surgery. They got it all…the whole tumor….all the cancer! Sarah recovered easily, no long term effects, and went into remission! Life became normal for them again.
My interactions with Karen and Sarah at this time were not as frequent. I had made an occasional supportive call or visit, but wasn’t involved in the whole process. Karen was often in Philadelphia, sometimes for weeks at a time and I had had a baby. Neither of us were skiing very much over the past 2 years. My sister had gone to Europe on a 6 month trip with her new husband, so she had only stayed in touch with Sarah by the occasional card or call.
When I did see her or Sarah—the birth, the baby, the adoption … none of that was ever mentioned.
In the meantime, I saw Dr. E a lot at the hospital. I would ask about Joey sometimes, she occasionally had a new picture or new stories to share about his life with his parents in Atlanta . Dr. E talked about Joey with such love and pride, she had really bonded with him. She told me it was because she had to keep him with her until the adoption paperwork was finished. She thought I had a special interest because I cared for him from the beginning in the hospital and had helped her so much with infant care instructions to go home. She never knew I was friends with the birth family.
Sometime in 1986, about a year after the surgery, Sarah’s symptoms returned. The tumor was back.
Sarah grew sicker and it became apparent that this cancer might get the best of her, she might not beat it this time, might not make it. She went through more chemo, and decided against further surgery. There were more risks this time; Sarah didn’t want to take them. She wanted to go home with Justin and live as much as she could.
I had become increasingly conflicted. I thought… ‘Sarah might not live, she or Karen might want to know how well that baby boy is doing’….. ‘They may want to see a picture or see the boy before Sarah dies…..’ I was having an overwhelming desire to let this secret out.
I wanted to shout: “I KNOW WHERE THE BABY IS….. I”VE BEEN WATCHING HIM GROW UP!!!! “
I had some misconstrued idea of my role in my head..the secret I knew could impact others greatly….I should tell …..Shouldn’t I???? If it was my daughter, I think I’d want to know. I’d want to see her with her child before she died. It was very inappropriate for me to think this– but I couldn’t let go of this idea, this strange notion in my head that Karen may openly question me about it someday—that I may be a source of comfort to her. My outward behavior remained professional, but inside my mind– nestled with the secret– the thought process was spinning on pure raw emotion. Clearly–I was having a hard time being objective in my thought process.
I decided to ask my friend who had adopted 2 kids; without telling the actual story; I gave her a ‘what-if’ …. Theoretical situation. –If someone knew that one of the birth parents of your children was gravely ill with a serious disease and may die….. Would you want to know?? How would you feel??
Her response to me “I’d be scared shitless! I’d be scared the birth families would descend on my life and want visitation. I’d be afraid my children would not understand. If there was serious health information I should know, I’d want the lawyer to tell me but that’s it.”
I really needed her perspective. This was not an open adoption after all. I had NO RIGHT to say anything! It was not my place at all. I took a huge step back, soul searched and pushed back all those emotional desires to tell…
I saw Karen, Sarah and Justin with some of the rest of their family at a Ski party. Sarah was vibrant, funny, laughing and having a great time! She had on a crazy hat to hide her scanty hair and it meshed perfectly with her personality. We had a wonderful day. I felt much more peaceful about knowing.
I got word about a month later that Sarah had taken a turn for the worse, the tumor growth was aggressive and they had already arranged for a hospital bed & help at home…Sarah’s home.. with Justin at her insistence. Justin was the major caregiver.
While this was happening, I ran into Dr.E again at work. I felt uneasy and started to struggle that same raw emotional conflict. I chatted with her casually & asked her again if she had a picture of Joey.…this time I asked if she could spare one for our bulletin board upstairs where we have pictures of a lot of our babies. She thought that was a great idea. [I know it’s wrong, but I was thinking, someday, maybe I can show Karen and say– the adoptive family sent it to us on the unit. I couldn’t let go of the idea.] Dr. E said “Sure.. great idea, I’ll get one for you!”
Sarah died peacefully in her home a few weeks later. Her family was devastated despite how “prepared” they’d been. My family was also very upset. My siblings all tried to make it home for the service. My husband, mom and sisters all went over to Karen’s house the night before the service. There were a lot of people there. Karen was pretty strong but at one point she cried “My baby is gone- she’s gone.. I’ve lost her!” I couldn’t imagine her pain, her grief. I cried with her.
It wasn’t about me—but I was suffering in a different way, struggling with what I knew…that a part of Sarah was out there… healthy and alive. I couldn’t share that with anyone. I cannot tell them. Going home in the car, I ended up alone with my mom and I had to tell her. I blurted out the whole story. I could trust her. I had to have someone help me. She reinforced what I already knew that of course I couldn’t tell. I felt better just letting it out to someone.
The funeral home was packed. We bypassed the rows of picture and long lines, gave nods to the family up front and found some seats. I sat there with my husband all teary eyed. I saw a lot of people I knew. There were also a lot of children running about. I saw what looked like a set of adorable triplets impeccably dressed in their identical brown suits. One of the triplets climbed up in the chair across from me and got snuggled in towards his mother, and then he popped right back down running after his brothers.
I slowly became more aware of this mother sitting across from me. The boy climbed back up in her lap as she looked up and met my gaze.
I could not believe what I was seeing! It was Dr. E.!
She said confused “What are you doing here?”
I said crying “Sarah was the daughter of one of my best friends– Karen…..”
She said “I didn’t know you knew her….. all this time… well–this is JOEY! Oh –that’s why you wanted a picture! Oh Sweetie.”
I fell to my knees in front of her, my hands on her lap sobbing, I could not control my emotions….
Me sobbing “I didn’t know they knew where he was..I didn’t know, I didn’t know..”
By now she was up and leading me down the hall, holding Joey’s hand…..I’m crying:”did Sarah get to see him? Did Karen? Oh –he’s just so precious….”
She realized I didn’t know about any contact at all so she quietly explained that Sarah had opened up the line of communication when she realized the treatments weren’t working and that she and Justin had wanted to see Joey– spend a little time with him. Then she said ..“Come here, I want you to see something.”
She took me into another room, filled with people I didn’t know. She announced to everyone. “This is the nurse I was telling you about who took such good care of Joey in the nursery as a baby!” I was sobbing still as she introduced me to her brother and his wife the adoptive parents, Joey, and the other 2 boys (I thought were triplets) who were brothers. I had said earlier in the story that Dr. E’s brother and wife (also both physicians) had gotten pregnant after getting Joey but I never knew they also had the good fortune of adopting another child a few months after Joey. The 3 boys were very close in age. The room was filled with Dr.E’s family who had all made the trip from Georgia! There were grandmas, grandpas, aunts, uncles.. all coming to pay their respects to Joey’s birth mother. What a wonderful openminded loving family! They were mostly staying in a room off to the side out of respect to Sarah’s family. What a gift… for Joey, for Karen and her family and what a gift for me.
Only a few people in Sarah’s family knew she had ever had a baby… …that was more than I thought. Those that knew only found out with-in the last few months. They were all very private about it. I found out later that Karen had still not come to terms with Sarah’s adoption choice. Karen was hoping to help her raise the baby when first finding out Sarah was pregnant. She herself hadn’t really visited with Joey It was very hard for her that Joey was even there… There were pictures on the wall of Sarah, Justin and Joey.. but I had bypassed that when we came in…and had not seen them.
Before the service started, my sisters were standing next to me on some steps, and Dr. E walked past with Joey saying he wanted to say hi to everyone again.
The sister who had been Sarah’s friend said: “Who’s that? Is that one of Sarah’s cousins?”
I hesitated not know what to say at first… and Karen’s mom looked at me–clearly understanding that I knew. She said: “It’s OK, you can tell her.” Once again, crying, I told my sister the secret I had kept all these years.
At the end of the service, people went outside to release flower petals or balloons in the wind and say a final goodbye to Sarah.
I stood next to Joey as he released a balloon. Dr E said “Would you like to say something Joey?”
Joey: “I say goodbye to my birth mother and I am happy my birth father is still alive!”
May 14
Prelude: My small town in the mid 70’s had one main highway which held the one and only “hotspot”… an older fast food joint called “Burger Chef”. Our population for the county was at least 75,000 to 100,000 LESS than it is today. (We have well over 125,000 now). We were rather spread out geographically which made this feel more like a small country town.
When a baby would be placed up for adoption, there was to be great secrecy to protect the identity of both the birth mother and the adopting mother. Before any type of open adoption, before there were several available agencies and when there wasn’t much “red-tape”…. The doctors had a list (The LIST) of names they collected, their patients who were unable to conceive wanting to adopt. Often, if a mom was considering putting her baby up for adoption, she didn’t say anything to anyone until delivery. (Some never had any pre-natal care) The docs would tell them they could handle everything for her and arrange for a lawyer to come talk to her etc… Once the connection was made between birth mother and lawyer, it was all handled very professionally and legally.
Sometimes, in a small town, working in L&D/NSY, you might accidently be aware of where a baby is going… the identity of the adoptive parents.
The first time this happened to me, I had been at a friend’s house at a party, when another friend drove up- rushed out of the car hollering “We’ve got a baby!! We’re getting our baby!!”. We all knew she had been unsuccessful getting pregnant and was on many waiting lists to adopt. We were all SO happy for her. All of us asked: When? Where? Boy/ Girl? Etc… All she knew was that a baby boy had been born that day at our general hospital (where I worked). It was a very strange feeling. I knew I was going to be seeing that baby the next day at work, possibly assigned to either the mom or baby’s care.
The next day I was in the nursery. The birth mother was a shockingly young teen, 14 years old. The baby, born by C/S, was very healthy (about 8 lbs actually) and he had no problems. I didn’t say anything to anybody. The day that the OB office called to arrange for the final discharge, I had answered the phone…I guess my young little self felt the need to be all truthful and honest. I quietly and meekly told the woman on the other end of the line that I knew where this baby was going.
Dead silence
She asked “What did you say?” Now.. I had to repeat it…. “I know the adoptive parents of this baby.” She made me feel really bad. “How did I find out this info?” She said I could “NEVER tell anyone I knew, I might jeopardize the entire adoption, these records will be sealed”…etc.. So I kept my mouth shut, the little boy grew up peacefully with his adoptive family, the young birth mother even came back to deliver more children many years later.
Note to self….. Never do THAT again.
Adoption in a Small Town ~ AGONY Part I
During a particular busy shift in L&D, circa 1982, a young 17 yr. old girl came up from the ER in very active labor. She was 5 weeks early, 5cm dilated, 100% effaced with bulging membranes and looked to be moving fast. It took me a few minutes to recognize her name. Sarah Johnston! Sarah Johnston?? I did a double take and looked at her again. Then I realized this girl was the daughter of one of my best friends! Her mom, Karen, was a ski instructor with me. She and I had skied together for years. Karen was older than me but we shared a lot of the same interests and could talk forever while riding the up the T-bar. Sarah was acting like she didn’t recognize me.. I was actually closer in age to Sarah than to Karen. Since both our whole families practically LIVED at that ski area all winter, we spent a lot of time together and Sarah was always hooking up and skiing with my younger sister. She certainly knew me from the ski area.
(I started to think.. maybe Karen doesn’t even KNOW she’s pregnant! ) After her next contraction, I privately whispered to her that I take privacy and confidentiality very seriously and I would NOT tell her mom anything. I then asked her if she would like me to leave the room. She immediately started to cry and said “no–please– I’m so scared, please stay till my mom gets here.” (Privately I’m thinking… wheeh… Karen knows…) So I stayed with her and coached her until Karen got there. I gave the other nurses a heads up and they covered my other patients.
Karen was already in tears when she arrived about a half hour later. I greeted her outside of Sarah’s labor room. She also seemed distressed and uncomfortable with my presence. I quietly said the same things to her I had said earlier to Sarah. Karen said.. “It’s ok that you’re here. I trust you; it’s just that NOBODY in the family knows that Sarah is pregnant. You have to promise NOT to tell your family or anyone in my family! …I am trying so hard to do what Sarah wants… Not to tell anybody. I only found out she was pregnant 3 weeks ago. She’s even giving the baby up for adoption! This whole thing is breaking my heart! I didn’t even tell my own mother!” We didn’t have time to talk anymore.
The baby was born and Sarah did not want to see him or hold him. Although he was a good weight of about 5 Lbs, he had some transitional breathing problems. We needed to take him right over to the nursery.
Sarah asked to be transferred to another floor {which we routinely offer to moms placing babies for adoption. They are always told they may come see the baby any time even if they are on another floor}. I did not see Karen after that. I felt she would come to me if she wished. I did not want to be intrusive. I did not talk again to any of my co-workers about my relationship with the family.
I focused on caring for the precious little baby boy. He needed a sepsis work-up with labs, Chest X-ray and an IV with antibiotics. He was also under an Oxyhood with a little bit of oxygen support. We would observe and monitor these 35 weekers at our small hospital and decide if they needed to be transported to a bigger hospital. This baby was stabilizing and improving rather than deteriorating. He stayed with us.
The next day, when I came into work, one of my most favorite doc’s, an orthopedic surgeon, Dr. E. was in to see the baby. I couldn’t figure out why, what was going on. She had scrubbed up and was standing at the incubator and asked..”Could I hold him?” I only asked,–are you related to him? We didn’t have the kind of security then that we do now.. It wasn’t that unusual for another doctor to show interest in a baby, esp a woman doctor.
Dr. E said “I’m kind of related….my brother and his wife are adopting him! So I guess that makes me his Aunt! I’m actually going to keep him with me for a few weeks until the paperwork is signed. My brother lives in Atlanta.” I found out later that this was arranged because of the LIST, that Sarah had not made any plans for agencies and was very eager to allow the doctor’s lawyer to handle all the arrangements.
I saw Sarah and Karen only one more time in the hospital after the birth. They were standing outside the nursery glass. Sarah was being discharged and had asked to stop by the nursery. I went out and invited them inside to see the baby. They both came in.. hesitantly. Karen had tears streaming down her face, trying to be strong for Sarah. Sarah got a little closer; she asked a few questions like a teenager would, and then she wanted to go. She wasn’t acting upset, her affect wasn’t flat; she was just acting pretty normal to me. So they left. Part of my heart left with Karen. I knew this had to be so hard for her.
The adoptive family had named the baby “Joey”. Soon all the nurses called him Joey. He stayed with us for a full course of antibiotics, 7 days. Dr. E came up from her ortho office to see him frequently and she spent a lot of time with him. She asked me so many questions and wanted me to help her with so many aspects of his care. I spent a lot of time with her.. She didn’t have children yet. It was clear to me that she was so in love with this baby! Dr. E didn’t know, but I had a special interest in this baby too! It made me so happy to know Karen’s grandson was going to such a great family.
Over the next several months, Dr. E would occasionally show us pictures of Joey with his family down in Atlanta, how big he was getting etc.. She told me also that once her brother and his wife had adopted Joey, they found out they were pregnant! When Joey was about a year old, he had a little brother!
Some time went on; life was normal…I saw Karen and Sarah all winter long on the slopes and at some family events. Karen would visit at my house like usual. Sarah would visit with my little sister like usual. Nothing was said. I never told my mother, my husband, my sister or anyone my family. NEVER. I never talked to Karen about it. I respected her privacy and felt if she wants to talk about it, she will.
One day, about 1 ½ years after the birth I ran into Karen at the hospital. She looked very upset.
“Karen.. What’s the matter???”
“It’s Sarah. [crying now] They think she has a brain tumor. We are transferring her to Philadelphia now for tests and maybe even surgery!!”
“Oh my God Karen! “
Stay tuned for Part II
May 12
One gorgeous lazy summer day in 1976– I got the call from the OB office (across the street) about 11 am.
Office Nurse: [matter of fact voice] “We’re sending over a woman with twins.”
Me: [Calmly] “Ok. Is she is labor?
Office: [still matter of factly] “She’s in very active labor, Dr. B just checked her and she’s 8cm.”
Me: [A little less calmly] “Whooo.. really?? We don’t have a doctor over here. Make sure Dr. B knows that. We’ll go get things ready. How far along is she?” (in the pregnancy)
Office:“She’s about 8 months maybe 35/36 weeks….. we aren’t quite sure, she just came into town– to the university — and this is actually her first visit”
Me: [Quickly] “Well — Ok- thanks, better get rolling! ”
We Hang-up
Me- To our group: “Guys- we’ve got twins in active labor coming from office right now- she’s already 8cm!”
In those days, twins were always expected to be delivered vaginally.. I never even thought to ask about which pregnancy this was, presentation, (head down? breech?), membranes ruptured?……. not that I had much time to gather any history…
We began to pull some supplies out and open up the delivery room…
The next call came in about 3 or 4 minutes—-
Office: [anxiously] “BRING EVERYTHING OVER HERE….QUICK ! THERE’S NO TIME…. SHE’S GOING TO HAVE THE TWINS HERE !” Hangs-up
We couldn’t all leave… One of the labor nurses grabbed a precip tray (small tray of emergency delivery items for a precipitous delivery) , put on a cover gown and ran down the steps to go over to the office.
The two most experienced nursery nurses grabbed two sterile newborn kits (these had sterile towels, washclothes, blankets, cotton balls, cord clamp, and a sterile shirt etc..) and a few other supplies needed to care for the babies… opened the lid of the 2 Armstrong heaters and threw everything inside. —These old heavy metal heated units would open from the top and were on small little wheels. We usually used them to transport smaller babies from the delivery room to the nursery. They were already old back then and were not real easy to push.

Armstrong Incubator/Transporter
This all happened very fast in a couple minutes. They were gone….headed down the elevator wearing their cover gowns pushing those old heated units filled with supplies.
I stayed behind with a couple other nurses to watch our other patients. We watched from the window over looking the street.
Both nurses, running on short chubby legs were pushing those Armstrong Heaters down towards the street. (Think Danny DeVito and John Belushi in scrub dresses and nurses caps!).
One of the general surgeons had just come out of the hospital, saw what was happening and ran ahead of them right out into the middle of the busy street, held up both her hands to STOP all traffic. (Think Jane Fonda in a lab coat!) If she had a whistle–she would have used it. From my window it seemed like the Keystone Cops.
They got into the office, huffing and puffing. They told me there were a lot of people already in the tiny exam room. Dr.B had already delivered 0ne squalling baby girl probably about 4 lbs, about 4 or 5 weeks early. She was pink with a lusty cry. Dr. B was always so calm.. he was telling everyone to calm down while he tried to explain to the mother and the very faint shocked looking father that there was ANOTHER baby coming! Remember this was her first visit to our doctors? Turns out, this was her first prenatal visit ANYWHERE!! You see….although Dr. B had told his nurses to call over to us a few minutes earlier with his findings, things happened so fast there in the office that he hadn’t QUITE really explained it yet to the parents. Twins were often a surprise in those days anyway, but this poor mom and dad had really just arrived in this country, let alone get in the door of the doctors office and promptly have TWINS!.
Back to the delivery. The second baby was coming frank breech. No worries, we did that all the time. They told me Dr. B asked the labor nurse who had arrived first to open up one of the sterile packs and use one of the sterile towels to help hold the baby’s feet while he skillfully delivered the arms & then head of the second squalling 4 lb baby girl! The 2 nursery nurses wrapped up the babies in the sterile towels and wisked them both right out of there in the Armstrongs, out of the office, back to the street. (I doubt they let the mother have any time with the babies. That’s how it was then…… 😦 ) Like a well rehearsed skit, our lovely lady surgeon was waiting and once again— held up traffic so the nurses and babies crossed quickly and safely.
I watched them coming back up the sidewalk and was waiting as they got off the elevator. They asked me to then help start the admission procedures in the isolation nursery. (They were born in that “dirty” office under unsterile conditions afterall!) At that time, babies delivered outside the “sterile” hospital were always watched in the Isolation Nursery.
The mom came over by ambulance up to the delivery room to deliver her placenta (one placenta- they were indeed confirmed identical). The father was scrubbed up, gowned up and finally allowed to really see his little baby girls. I was the one to bring him over to the heaters. He was crying so hard. He was really in a state of shock and so emotional.
I thought he was so shocked from the surprise of twins and the burst of frenzied excitement the birth had been……
This is when he told me that one year ago, in their country, his wife had suffered thru the birth of a stillborn baby girl ……… and now they had TWO healthy baby girls!!! Can you imagine??
This family continued to grow as they stayed in town, both studying at the university. Her next baby was 10 LBs and born by C/S….. that’s another story.
May 6

When Blood and Birth were considered CLEAN
Thought I’d try this Wordless Wednesday style post. I give you a question….
Do any of you remember when Blood and Birth were considered CLEAN?
No gloves needed or used unless you would be STERILE or handling contaminated items??
Anyone??

No gloves
May 5
This story is about
VINTAGE Breastfeeding information
NOT Current Information

1979 Father wearing gown and mask to attend feeding
I have attempted to give an overview of our Maternity Ward as it was when I started to work there. I mentioned how “Once delivered, the baby went to the nursery and became the immediate property of the nurses, only to be seen from a window and allowed to be with the mother at token intervals. The poor little baby was often keep without food/ only water for the first 12 hrs. (Breastfeeding was something only the hippies did.)”
The thought process, as I was instucted even in nursing school, was that most newborns needed to rest after birth, and didn’t require food for 4 to 24 hours. They felt that postponing food would allow time for the mucous to be cleared from the throat and the baby would be allowed ample rest after the exertion of birth and all that handling by doctors and nurses as they provided the necessary care. My nursing school textbook (Marlow, Pediatric Nursing, 4th ed. 1973) even goes so far as to say that this lag time would allow the mother sufficient rest before giving her infant the breast because….. this first offering is…… difficult. ( Oh… You’d better rest up, dear…)
Another thought process that unfortunately is still around today was that the nurse should not encourage the mother to breastfeed over bottle feed…. least she arouse or cause any maternal guilt feelings. My old textbooks all did list some basic benefits of breastfeeding and proclaimed this as the ideal food. Ie: easier to digest, natural diet for the newborn, convenience, availability AND the provision of identified and unidentified substances which may be protective. The nurse should provide the information to the mother but not encourage her. They felt prepared formulas (Evaporated or whole milk formulas with added carbohydrates) OR the newer commercially prepared formulas were an “equal” substitute. We did have a full formula preparation room in the nursery with a refridgerator, range, sterilizing equipment etc. When I started, the Similac and Enfamil reps had already just hooked up the hospital with the marvelous free individual bottles of their products which were piled high on top of the former work area for formula prep. I don’t know when they actually stopped making it themselves.
Our 1975 Hospital Policy & Procedure *
If we were unable to get a baby to latch on, we had one tool available to us at the time. We had a hard rubber nipple on a glass base shield that we placed over the breast/nipple and we used the same timing of feeds. We would only help a mother pump her breasts if she was engorged. The only tool we had to assist her with this was a bicycle horn hand pump.
There were some pediatricians who were starting to be flexible and improve the approach to breastfeeding in a more natural sense, encouraging initiation earlier and more frequent feeds “on-demand”. There were more professionals opposed to that train of thought and continued their same practices. When the women started coming in and requesting a better approach to feeding…. they were sabotaged by the nurses who then fed their infants “white water” while in the nursery so these babies would sleep until the next designated feeding time.
This was 34-35 years ago and I still work with nurses today who have some of these thought processes behind what they do. Many of the older physicians, if taught anything in Med school, were taught similar management protocols. It is such a difficult retraining, re-educating process that some of us face.
Just last week.. a brand new RN/BSN asked me how the newborn was supposed to survive on colostrum alone?
May 2
I say our hospital’s first planned VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean)….. however a prelude is necessary because the actual first VBAC I can remember…. totally freaked everyone out. Here are the stories:
Sometime in the mid 70’s -circa 1976, a mom came in to L/D for a labor check. She was near term with some regular contractions, a little bit of bloody show. The nurse calmly wrote her name down in the notebook…. [Yes– a notebook, that’s the only way we kept track of labor checks back in those days. No medical record, no registration, just a name in a book and the day they were here and checked]… She was getting ready to gather more information when the mom said she had a history of a prior C/S.
Suddenly all the nurses were scrambling—“Quick, call the doctor!” “Quick, shave her belly,” “Get the Fetal Hearts” “Call the OR and tell them we have a STAT C/S”…We were all busy quickly getting her ready for the OR.
This little baby, however, definitely had other ideas. The mom told them she had to go to the bathroom…
Someone said: “Not now honey, we’re going to get you to the operating room to have your baby.”
The Mom: “But—I have to go….. AUGHHHH” (loudly grunting)
One of the seasoned nurses threw the sheets back and low and behold, that little baby was crowning!! “Doctor W– No time for the OR– This baby is coming!”
She did deliver vaginally, quickly, and everyone was in a state of shock!
I was thinking– I didn’t think that was possible–they told me once a cesarean always a cesarean—they told me the uterus would rupture–that the mother would hemorrhage. She and her baby were just fine. I realized once again that I had a lot to learn!
Fast forward now to 1984.
I was sent a nicely written post on the VBAC Pendulum by Dr Shelley Binkley which discusses the rise and fall of VBAC’s in the US and makes for very interesting reading. There’s been tremendous controversy surrounding this topic.
VBAC’s were widely discussed in the literature at early to mid 80’s and many women were interested…the doctors???– not quite so sold on the idea. However, in the late 70’s early 80’s, we had one very progressive young doctor (Dr.B) in the main OB practice. He was responsible for many of the advances we had in a more natural approach to childbirth. He was willing and eager to give this a try.
I am not sure what he may have discussed in the office with his patients or how he may have selected his first patient who could try for a VBAC. Knowing him, he may have brought it up to mom’s instead of the mom bringing it up to him. Anyway– sometime in the summer of 1984 we heard we would be having our first VBAC! She was due in December with her second child. Her first baby had been delivered at our hospital by Dr. B via C/S because of some fetal distress. He knew her history and had full access to her records to know exactly what type or uterine incision she had. She was young, healthy and continued her pregnancy to term without any complications. She was very excited.
The hospital staff was a nervous wreck.
Where oh where were we going to labor her so that should ANY complication arise, we could do the fastest C/S possible??? We didn’t do C/S’s on our unit. The OR was down a floor and in another wing!!! Such a dilemma. They finally decided to use the tiny windowless isolation room of the Recovery Room right outside the OR. They decided to bring all the equipment from L/D down to that room to see how it all fit. We had a regular bed,overbed table, the fetal monitor, some other IV equipment/meds/ supplies etc.. a chair for dad, stool and sm desk for nurse…all crammed in the room. (OK- we scrapped the desk..that was rediculous) We were literally practicing like when they do separation surgery for conjoined twins!! Quite the production.
Ready or not, here she comes…….arriving in labor almost a week late at 40 5/7 weeks. She was in very early labor much to the relief of everyone involved. OF COURSE I was on duty! OF COURSE I was elected to be her nurse! I was after all, the most prepared (say all my co-workers). So while other’s got the room ready downstairs, I admitted her. There were no special consents at the time. My orders were continuous fetal monitoring, start an IV right away, AND insert a Foley catheter so we would keep the bladder drained, avoid any excess pressure on the uterine scar and keep her from needing to get up. I also had to do a big shave prep in case of an emergent C/S. We took her down to that tiny closet of a room when it was ready, around noon. She was still in early labor. The plan was to do a double set-up in the OR for delivery. That meant a whole set-up for a vaginal birth and a whole set-up open for a C/S complete with the entire OR team. They would call them in when she was in active labor. She had progressed to 7 or 8 cm with her first baby before needing a section so the thought was she’d go fast this time.
Early labor continued into the late afternoon. All the managers involved kept stopping in repeatedly with all the same questions:….. “Is everything alright??”….. “Any problems??” …..”Any sharp pain in the lower abdomen?”….. “Any blood in the urine?”…….. “How about any excess vaginal bleeding?” ……..They were making me crazy. We didn’t do any Pitocin augmentation. This poor mom was just in bed the whole time, in the closet with the single bright light, moving around when I suggested changing positions. Finally she headed into active labor and then did progress quickly to transition. The membranes ruptured spontaneosly and the fluid was clear. The baby was great on the monitor! The mom was a trooper, never complained, always smiling in between contractions, agreeable to whatever we said. They asked me to stay and I stayed…. long past my shift.
They called in the OR teams. I wasn’t nervous anymore. Get me alone with my patient– away from the nervous Nellies and we can connect and work together through labor. It helped that I had seen that unplanned VBAC so many years before and that I had tremendous trust in and respect for Dr. B.. He was there past his shift also. I had already helped her through so many contractions. She didn’t have the slightest symptom of problems. I had her pretty relaxed, she went thru transition and headed into the second stage in good shape. At this point, they wanted to move her to the OR for pushing. I think back and feel so bad for her… She was however, still excited and still very agreeable. She pushed on the hard delivery table in the OR in front of the assembled teams. Talk about performance anxiety. She sure had a lot of coaches!!
She delivered and 8lb 14oz boy named Michael later that evening!!! He was 20 1/2 inches long, his apgars were 8 and 8, just needing some blow-by oxygen in the OR.
There were no complications. This mom came back and had a few more VBAC’s ending up with 5 children overall. I don’t remeber how many VBAC’s we labored in that rediculous closet of a room before we would keep them in L&D.
I admire this mom for her strength and courage. I thank her for all she taught me…taught us..
Michael will be 25 years old this December!
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